Small docker improvements and fixes (#12335)

* feat: disable uneecessary npm features

disables npm audit, fund and update-notifier for a few second startup speedup

* fix: make default actually defaults not forced values

* feat: upgrade on container changes

* feat: support changing build verb

* fix: use local volumes instead of bind mounts

* fix: save just the hash without any unexpected whitespace

* feat: use run with mount instead of copying for cross-platfomr builds

* ci: try with minimal cache

* ci: don't fetch all branches

* feat: bsic support for other package managers via PACKAGE_MANAGER env var

* refactor: better structured entrypoint

Co-authored-by: NavyStack <137406386+NavyStack@users.noreply.github.com>

* ci: properly cache the node_modules mount

* fix: syntax error

* refactor: fine tune docker-related files

* ci: docker image taging (time, latest)

* fix: remove the trailing slash for correct directory path

* docker: todo- use environment variables to create files

* docker: fix permissions

* docker: fix permissions

* docker: fix stage

* feat: auto-upgrade on package.json changes

* fix: don't profile-gate postgres

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Co-authored-by: NavyStack <137406386+NavyStack@users.noreply.github.com>
Co-authored-by: NavyStack <navystack@askfront.com>

install/docker/setup.json

@@ -1,21 +1,23 @@
 {
-    "mongo": {
-        "host": "mongo",
-        "port": 27017,
-        "database": "nodebb",
-        "username": "nodebb",
-        "password": "nodebb"
-    },
-    "redis": {
-        "host": "redis",
-        "port": 6379,
-        "database": 0
-    },
-    "postgres": {
-        "host": "postgres",
-        "port": 5432,
-        "database": "nodebb",
-        "username": "nodebb",
-        "password": "nodebb"
+    "defaults": {
+        "mongo": {
+            "host": "mongo",
+            "port": 27017,
+            "database": "nodebb",
+            "username": "nodebb",
+            "password": "nodebb"
+        },
+        "redis": {
+            "host": "redis",
+            "port": 6379,
+            "database": 0
+        },
+        "postgres": {
+            "host": "postgres",
+            "port": 5432,
+            "database": "nodebb",
+            "username": "nodebb",
+            "password": "nodebb"
+        }
     }
 }